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287 اﻟﻔﺎﻋﻠﻴﺔ ﻓﻲ اﻟﻌﻼﻗﺎت اﻻﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﻴﺔ وﺗﺪرﻳﺐ ا ﳋﻮﺿﻬﺎ. وﻫﻨﺎك أﻳﻀﺎ ﻃﺮﻳﻘﺔ اﻟﺘﻌﻤﻴﺔ واﻹرﺑﺎك foggingﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وﻳﻮﺻﻰ ﺑﺎﺳﺘﺨﺪاﻣﻬﺎ ﻣﻊ اﻷﺷﺨﺎص اﻟﺬﻳﻦ ﻳﺘﻄﻮﻋﻮن ﻟﻠﻤﺠﺎدﻟﺔ وا ﻗﺪ ﻳﻨﺘﻘﺪون أﺷﻴﺎء ﻫﻲ ﺧﺎﺻﺔ ﺑﻚ أﻧﺖ ﺷﺨﺼﻴﺎﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وﻣﻦ ﺷﺄﻧﻚ أﻧﺖ. وﻳﺘﻄﻠﺐ ﻫﺬا اﻷﺳﻠﻮب أن ﺗﻘﻮل ﻟﻪ إﻧﻚ ﻋﻠﻰ ﺣﻖ ﻓﻴﻤﺎ ﺗﻘﻮلﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وﻟﻜﻦ ﺑﻄﺮﻳﻘﺔ ﺗﻮﺿﺢ ﻟﻪ أن ﻣﻮاﻓﻘﺘﻚ ﻻ ﺗﻌﻨﻲ ﻣﻮاﻓﻘﺔ ﺣﻘﻴﻘﻴﺔ ﻋﻠﻰ ﻣﺤﺘﻮى ﻣﺎ ﻳﻘﻮﻟﻪﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﺑﻘﺪر ﻣﺎ ﺗﻌﻨـﻲ أﻧﻚ ﻏﻴﺮ ﻣﺴﺘﻌﺪ ﻟﺘﺒﺎدل اﳊﻮار أو اﳊﻜﻢ ﻋﻠﻰ ﻣﻮﺿﻮع ﻫﻮ ﻣﻦ ﺷﺄﻧـﻚ أﻧـﺖ ﻓﺤﺴﺐ. وﻳﺴﺘﺨﺪم ﻫﺬا اﻷﺳﻠﻮب ﻟﻺﻋﺎﻧﺔ ﻋﻠﻰ اﻟﺘﺤﻤﻞ اﻟﻬﺎدﻏﳉﺧﻢﺺﻢﻰﻂمﺧﻢﻢﲢﺠﻢﺰﻢؤﻊ ﻟﻠﻨﻘﺪ اﳋـﺎرﺟـﻲﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ أو اﻟﺘﻬﺠﻢ ﻋﻠﻴﻚ ودون أن ﺗﺘﺤﻮل إﻟﻰ اﻟﻘﻠﻖ أو اﻻﻧﺴﺤﺎب أو اﻟﻌﺪوان. وﺑﺎﻟﺘﺎﻟﻲ ﻻ ﺗﺪﻋﻢ ﻟﻠﻨﺎﻗﺪ ﺳﻠﻮﻛﺎ ﻗﺪ ﻳﺴﺘﺨﺪﻣﻪ ﻛﻠﻤﺎ أراد إﺛﺎرﺗﻚ اﻧﻔﻌﺎﻟﻴﺎ. وﻫﻨﺎك أﻳﻀﺎ أﺳﻠﻮب اﻷﺳﻄﻮاﻧﺔ اbroken recordﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻓﻔﻲ اﳊﺎﻻت اﻟﺘﻲ ﻳﻜﺜﺮ ﻓﻴﻬﺎ ﺷﺨﺺ ﻣﺎ ﻣﻦ ﻣﻘﺎﻃﻌﺘﻚ أﺛﻨﺎء ﺣﺪﻳﺜﻚﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ أو أن ﻳﻌﺘﺮض ﻋﻠﻰ ﻣﺎ ﺗﻘﻮلﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻗﺒﻞ أن ﺗﻨﻬﻲ ﻛﻼﻣﻚ أو ﺗﻮﺿﺢ ﻓﻜﺮﺗﻚﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ اﻧﺘﻈﺮ إﻟﻰ أن ﻳﻨﺘﻬﻲ اﻟﺸﺨﺺ اﻟﺬي ﻳﻘﺎﻃﻌﻚ ﻣﻦ اﳊﺪﻳﺚ. وﻋﻨﺪﺋﺬ ﲡﺎﻫﻞ اﻷﺻﻠﻴﺔ ﺑﺎﺳﺘﺨﺪام ﻋﺒﺎرات ﻣﺜﻞ ﻣﻨﺎﻗﺸﺘﻪ ﻫﻮ وﺑﻬﺬا اﻷﺳﻠﻮب ﺗﺘﻤﻜﻦ ﻣﻦ اﻹﺣﺴﺎس اﻟﻬﺎدﻏﳉﺧﻢﺺﻢﻰﻂمﺧﻢﻢﲢﺠﻢﺰﻢؤﻊ ﻋﻨﺪ ﻣـﻮاﺟـﻬـﺔ ا ﻏﻴﺮ ا ا اﻻﻧﻔﻌﺎل. وأﺧﻴﺮا ﻫﻨﺎك أﺳﻠﻮب اﻟﺘﺴـﺎؤل اﻟـﺴـﻠـﺒـﻲ negative inquiryﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ اﻟﺬي ﻳـﻮﺻـﻰ ﺑﺎﺳﺘﺨﺪاﻣﻪ ﻣﻊ اﻷﺻﺪﻗﺎء واﻷﺷﺨﺎص اﻷﻋﺰاء ﻟﺪﻳﻚ ﻋﻨﺪﻣﺎ ﺗﺮﻳﺪ أن ﺗﻨـﻬـﻲ اﳋﻼﻓﺎت ا ﻣﻦ ﺷﺨﺺ ﻣﻌ ﺳﺒﺒﺖ ﺿﻴﻘﻪﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ إﻟﻰ أن ﻳﻨﺘﻬﻲ ﻣﻦ ﺳﺮد ﻛـﻞ اﳉـﻮاﻧـﺐ اﻟـﺘـﻲ ﻳـﺄﺧـﺬﻫـﺎ ﻋـﻠـﻴـﻚﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وﻋﻨﺪﺋﺬ اﺑﺪأ ﻓﻲ ﺗﻠﺨﻴﺼﻬﺎ ﻣﻦ ﺟﺪﻳﺪﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ واﺷﻜﺮه ﻋﻠﻰ اﻫﺘﻤﺎﻣﻪﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وأﻧﻚ ﺳﺘﻜﻮن ﺳﻌﻴﺪا أﻛﺜﺮ ﻓﻲ ا

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289 اﻟﻔﺎﻋﻠﻴﺔ ﻓﻲ اﻟﻌﻼﻗﺎت اﻻﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﻴﺔ وﺗﺪرﻳﺐ ا وﻳـﺠـﻌـﻞ ﻣـﻨـﻚ ﻫـﺬا اﻷﺳـﻠـﻮب ﺷـﺨـﺼـﺎ ﻫـﺎدﺋـﺎ ﻓـﻲ ﻣـﻮاﺟـﻬـﺔ اﻟـﻀـﻐــﻮط اﻻﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﻴﺔﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وﻣﺎ ﻳﻈﻬﺮ ﻣﻦ أﺧﻄﺎء ﻓﻲ ﺳﻠـﻮﻛـﻚ وﺗـﺼـﺮﻓـﺎﺗـﻚ ﻣـﻊ اﻵﺧـﺮﻳـﻦ. وﻳﻈﻬﺮك ﻓﻲ ﻧﻔﺲ اﻟﻮﻗﺖ ﺑﺎﻷﺷﺨﺎص ا أﺳﺎﻟﻴﺐ ﺗﺴﺎﻋﺪ ﻋﻠﻰ ﺗﻴﺴﻴﺮ ﺗﺪرﻳﺐ اﳌﻬﺎرات اﻻﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﻴﺔ ﺳﻨﺘﻌﺮض ﻫﻨﺎ ﺑﺎﻟﺸﺮح ﻷﺳﻠﻮﺑ ﻋﻤﻠﻴﺔ ﺗﺪرﻳﺐ اrole playingﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ واﻻﻗﺘﺪاء ﺑﺎﻟﻨﻤﺎذج اﻟﺴﻠﻮﻛﻴﺔ اﻟﻔﻌﺎﻟﺔ modeling. أﺳﻠﻮب ﻟﻌﺐ اﻷدوار ﻳﻘﻮم ﻛﻞ ﻓﺮد ﻣﻨﺎ ﻓﻲ اﻟﻠﺤﻈﺔ اﻟﻮاﺣﺪة ﺑﻌﺪد ﻛﺒﻴﺮ ﻣﻦ اﻷدوار اﻻﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﻴﺔ اﻟﺘﻲ ﻗﺪ ﻻ ﺗﻜﻮن ﻣﺤﺪدة ﺑﺸﻜﻞ دﻗﻴﻖ أو رﺳﻤﻲ. ﻓﺒﻌﺾ اﻷدوار اﻻﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﻴﺔ ﻛﺪور اﻟﺰوج أو اﻟﺰوﺟﺔﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ أو اﻟﺼﺪﻳﻖ أو ا ﺑﻠﻮاﺋﺢﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وﻟﻜﻨﻬﺎ ﺗﻜﻮن ﻣﻄﻠﺒﺎ ﻣﻦ ﻣﻄﺎﻟﺐ اﻟﻮﺿﻮح ﻓﻲ اﻟﻌﻼﻗﺎت اﻻﺟﺘﻤـﺎﻋـﻴـﺔ ﺑﺎﻵﺧﺮﻳﻦ. ﻓﻤﻌﺮﻓﺘﻨﺎ ﺗﺴﺎﻋﺪﻧﺎ ﻋﻠﻰ اﻟﺘﻨﺒﺆ ﺑﺴﻠﻮك اﻵﺧﺮﻳﻦﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وﺗﻨﺒﺆﻧﺎ ﺑﺴﻠﻮﻛﻬﻢ ﻳﺴﺎﻋﺪﻧﺎ ﻋﻠﻰ ﺗﻔﻬﻢ ﻣﺸﺎﻋﺮﻫﻢ وأﻓﻌﺎﻟﻬﻢ ﺑﺼﻮرة ﺟﻴﺪةﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وﻣﻦ ﺛﻢ ﻧﺤﻘﻖ ﻓﻲ ﻣﺜﻞ ﻫﺬه ا درﺟﺎت ﻣﻦ اﻟﻔﺎﻋﻠﻴﺔ. وﻳﻘﻮم ﺟﺰء ﻛﺒﻴﺮ ﻣﻦ ﳒﺎح اﻟﺸﺨﺺ اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﻴﺎ وﻓﺎﻋﻠـﻴـﺘـﻪ وﺻـﺤـﺘـﻪﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻓـﻲ ﻗﺪرﺗﻪ ﻋﻠﻰ اﻟﻘﻴﺎم ﺑﺎﻟﺪور ا اﻟﻮاﺣﺪ ﻋﺎدة ﺑﺄﻛﺜﺮ ﻣﻦ دورﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻓﺎﻟﻄﺒﻴﺐ ﻃﺒﻴﺐ ﺑ وأبﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وﻣﻮﻇﻒ ﺑﺤﺴﺐ اﻟﻌﻼﻗﺔ ا ﻋﻠﻰ اﻟﺸﺨﺺ أن ﻳﻘﻮم ﺑﻬﺬه اﻷدوار ﻣﺠﺘﻤﻌﺔ ﺑﺈﺗﻘﺎنﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﺧـﺎﺻـﺔ إذا ﺗـﻌـﺎرﺿـﺖ ﻣﻄﺎﻟﺐ أداء دور ﻣﻌ ﺑﺪور آﺧﺮ ﺑﺼﻔﺘﻪ زوﺟﺎ ﻓﻲ ا ﻣﺸﻜﻼت ﻧﻔﺴﻴﺔ واﻧﻔﻌﺎﻟﻴﺔ ﺗﻨﺘﺞ ﺑﺴﺒﺐ اﻟﺘﻌﺎرض ﻓﻲ أداء اﻷدوار أو ﺗﺼﺎرع اﻷدوار.

290 اﻹﻛﺘﺌﺎب وﺗﺸﻜﻞ ا ﻓﻴﻬﺎ ﲢﺪﻳﺎ رﺋﻴﺴﻴﺎ ﻟﻪ. ﻓﺎﻟﺘﻘﺪم ﻟﻮﻇﻴﻔﺔﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وﻹﺟﺮاء ﻣﻘﺎﺑﻠﺔ ﺷﺨﺼﻴﺔﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ واﻟﺘﻘﺪم ﳋﻄﺒﺔ أو ﻟﺰواجﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ أو ﻟﻄﻠﺐ ﻣﻌﻮﻧﺔﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ أو ﻹﻋﻄﺎء أواﻣﺮ ﻓﻲ ﻣﻮﻗﻒ ﻗﻴﺎدي ﺗﺸﻜﻞ ﺟﻤﻴﻌﻬﺎ ﲢﺪﻳﺎت إﻛﻠﻴﻨﻴﻜﻴﺔ ﲡﺐ ﻣﻮاﺟﻬﺘﻬﺎ واﻟﺘﺪرﻳﺐ ﻋﻠﻰ أداء ﻣﺘﻄـﻠـﺒـﺎﺗـﻬـﺎ اﻟﺴﻠﻮﻛﻴﺔ ﻣﺴﺒﻘﺎﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وذﻟﻚ ﻣﻦ ﺧﻼل ﻟﻌﺐ اﻷدوار. اﻟﺘﻌﺎﻣﻞ ﻣﻊ ﺗﺼﺎرع اﻷدوار: وﻣﻦ رأﻳﻨﺎ أن إﺣﺪى اﻟﻌﻘﺒﺎت اﻟﺮﺋﻴﺴﻴﺔ اﻟﺘﻲ ﺗﻮاﺟﻪ ا اﻟﺘﻔﺎﻋﻞ اﻻﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﻲ اﳉﺪﻳﺪةﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﺗﻨﺘﺞ ﻋﻦ ﻋﺪم ﻓﻬﻢ اﻟﺸﺨﺺ اﻟﺬي ﻳﻘﻮم ﺑﻪ. ﻓﺎﻟﺸﺨﺺ اﻟﺬي ﻳﺘﻘﺪم ﻹﺟﺮاء ﻣﻘﺎﺑﻠﺔ ﺷـﺨـﺼـﻴـﺔ ﻟـﻠـﺤـﺼـﻮل ﻋﻠﻰ ﻋﻤﻞ ﻣﻌ اﻟﻘﻴﺎم ﺑﻪ. وﻳﺴﺘﺨﺪم ا ﺣﺪوﺛﻪﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﺑﻐﺮض زﻳﺎدة اﻟﻘﺪرة ﻋﻠﻰ ﻣﻮاﺟـﻬـﺔ اﻹﺣـﺒـﺎط واﻟـﻌـﺠـﺰ ﻓـﻲ ا اﻻﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﻴﺔ اﳊﺎﺳﻤﺔ. وﻳﺴﺘﺨﺪم ا إﺗﻘﺎن أدوارﻫﻢ ﻓﻲ اﳊﻴﺎةﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وﺗﻌﻠﻢ ﻣﻬـﺎرات اﺟـﺘـﻤـﺎﻋـﻴـﺔ ﺗـﺘـﻄـﻠـﺒـﻬـﺎ اﻟـﻌـﻼﻗـﺎت ﺑﺎﻵﺧﺮﻳﻦ وﺑﺎﻟﺘﺎﻟﻲ ﺗﻮﻗﻌﺎﺗﻬﻢ ﻋﻨﺎ. وﻳﺴﺘﺨﺪم أﺳﻠﻮب ﻟﻌﺐ اﻷدوار أﻳﻀﺎ ﻓﻲ اﳊﺎﻻت اﻟﺘﻲ ﻳﻜﻮن ﻣﻦ ا ﻓﻴﻬﺎﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ أن ﻳﺪرب ا وﲡﻨﺐ اﻻﻧﺪﻓﺎﻋﺎت اﳊﻤﻘﺎء. وﻳﺘﻢ ذﻟﻚ ﻣﻦ ﺧﻼل إﺛﺎرة ﻣﻮاﻗﻒ ﻓﻲ ﺟﻠﺴﺎت اﻟﻌﻼج ﺑﻄﺮﻳﻖ اﻟﺘﺨﻴﻞ وﻳﻜﻮن ﻣﻦ ﺷﺄﻧﻬﺎ إﺛﺎرة اﻟﻐﻴﻆ أو اﻟﻐﻀﺐ أو اﻹﺣﺒﺎط. وﻣﻦ ﺧﻼل ذﻟﻚ ﻳﻘﻮم ا ﺗﺪل ﻋﻠﻰ ﺿﺒﻂ اﻟﻨﻔﺲ واﻟﺜﻘﺔﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وذﻟﻚ ﺑﺘﻮﺟﻴﻪ اﻫﺘﻤﺎﻣﻪ ﻟﺘﻄﻮﻳﺮ ﺟـﻮاﻧـﺐ ﻣـﻦ اﻟﺴﻠﻮك واﻻﺳﺘﺠﺎﺑﺎت ﻣﻨﻬﺎ: - ﺗﺄﻛﻴﺪ اﻻﻟﺘﻘﺎء اﻟﺒﺼﺮي ا - اﺗﺨﺎذ ﻣﻮﺿﻊ ﺟﺴﻤﻲ واﺛﻖ وﻟﻜﻦ ﺑﻄﺮﻳﻘﺔ ﻻ ﺗﺜﻴﺮ اﻻﻧﻔﻌﺎل. - اﻟﺘﺪرﻳﺐ ﻋﻠﻰ ﺑﻌﺾ اﻻﺳﺘﺠﺎﺑﺎت اﻟﻠﻔﻈﻴـﺔ أو اﻟـﻌـﻤـﻠـﻴـﺔ ﻹﻧـﻬـﺎء ا ﻧﻬﺎﻳﺔ إﻳﺠﺎﺑﻴﺔ ﻣﻔﻴﺪة. - اﻟﺘﺪرﻳﺐ ﻋﻠﻰ ا

291 اﻟﻔﺎﻋﻠﻴﺔ ﻓﻲ اﻟﻌﻼﻗﺎت اﻻﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﻴﺔ وﺗﺪرﻳﺐ ا ا اﻻﻗﺘﺪاء ﺑﺎﻟﻨﻤﺎذج: ﻛﺬﻟﻚ ﺑﺎﻹﻣﻜﺎن اﻛﺘﺴﺎب اﻟﻜﺜﻴﺮ ﻣﻦ ﺟﻮاﻧﺐ اﻟﺴـﻠـﻮك اﻹﻳـﺠـﺎﺑـﻲ ذﻟﻚ ا ا واﻻﻗﺘﺪاء ﻓﻲ ﺗﻌﻠﻢ اﻟﺜﻘﺔﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ واﻟﻔﺎﻋﻠﻴﺔ ﻓﻲ ا ﻣﺸﺮﻗﺔﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻣﻦ ﺣﻴﺚ إﺣﺪاث اﻟـﺘـﻐـﻴـﺮات ا اﻻﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﻲ. ﻓﻤﻦ ﺧﻼل اﻟﻘﺪوة وﻣﻼﺣﻈﺔ اﻵﺧﺮﻳﻦ ﻣﻦ أﻧﻮاع اﻟﺴﻠﻮك اﻹﻳﺠﺎﺑﻲ وأن ﺗﺘﻮﻗﻒ ﻋﻦ ﺗﻌﻠﻢ ﻛﺜﻴﺮ ﻣﻦ اﻷ ﻣﻦ اﻟﺴﻠﻮك. وﻣﻦ ا ﻣﻦ ﺧﻼل ﻣﻼﺣﻈﺔ اﻵﺧﺮﻳﻦﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻣﻨﻬﺎ: اﻟﻐﻴﺮﻳﺔﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وﺗﻘﺪ ا وا أن ﺗـﺪرﻳـــﺐ ﻫـــﺬه اﳋـﺼـــﺎﺋـﺺ ﺗـﺴـــﺎﻋــﺪ ـ دون ﺷــﻚ ـ ﻋــﻠــﻰ اﻹﻗــﻼل ﻣــﻦ اﻻﺿﻄﺮاﺑﺎت اﻟﻨﻔﺴﻴﺔ اﻟﻀﺎرة وﺗﺘﻮﻗﻒ ﻓﺎﻋﻠﻴﺔ اﻟﻘﺪوة ﻣﻦ ﺣﻴﺚ ﻫﻲ أﺣﺪ أﺳﺎﻟﻴﺐ ﺗﻌﺪﻳﻞ اﻟﺴﻠﻮك ﻋﻠﻰ ﺷﺮوطﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻣﻦ أﻫﻤﻬﺎ: وﺟﻮد ﻗﺪوة ﻓﻌﻠﻴﺔ أو ﺷﺨﺺ ﻳﺆدي اﻟﻨـﻤـﻮذج اﻟـﺴـﻠـﻮﻛـﻲ ا ﻗﺪوة رﻣﺰﻳﺔ ﻣﻦ ﺧﻼل ﻣﺸﺎﻫﺪة ﻓﻴﻠﻢ أو ﻣﺠﻤﻮﻋﺔ ﻣﻦ اﻟﺼﻮر ا ﺗﻮﺟﻪ اﻷﻧﻈﺎر إﻟﻰ ﺟﻮاﻧﺐ اﻟﺴﻠﻮك ا ﺗﻮاﻓﺮﻫﺎ ﻓﻲ اﻟﻘﺪوة أو اﻟﻨﻤﻮذج اﻟﺬي ﻧﻼﺣﻈﻪ. ﻓﻨﺤﻦ ﻻ ﻧﺴﺘـﺠـﻴـﺐ ﺑـﺪرﺟـﺔ ﻣﺴﺎوﻳﺔ وﺣﺘﻰ ﻳﺴﻬﻞ ﻋﻠﻴﻚ اﻹﻗﻨﺎع ﺑﺎﻟﺴﻠﻮك اﻟﺬي ﻳﻘﻮم أو ﺗﻘﻮم ﺑﻪ اﻟﻘﺪوة ﻻﺑﺪ إذن ﻣﻦ ﺗﻮاﻓﺮ ﻋﺪد ﻣﻦ اﻟﺸﺮوط ﻣﻨﻬﺎ: اﻟﺘﺸـﺎﺑـﻪ ﻓـﻲ اﻟـﻌـﻤـﺮﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ واﳉـﻨـﺲﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ واﻹﻃـﺎر اﻻﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋـﻲ واﳊـﻀـﺎري. واﻟـﻘـﺪوة اﻟـﻨـﺎﺟـﺤـﺔﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ أي اﻟـﺸـﺨـﺺ اﻟـﺬي ﺳـﻨـﻘـﻮم k ﻧﺪرﻛﻪ ﻛﺬﻟﻚﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وذا ﻣﺮﻛﺰ ﻋﺎلﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وﻋﻠﻰ درﺟﺔ ﻣﻦ اﳉﺎذﺑﻴﺔ واﻹﻗﻨﺎعﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ واﻟﺴﻤﺎت اﻟﺸﺨﺼﻴﺔ ا

292 اﻹﻛﺘﺌﺎب واSprafkin & others 1993, p.17.( وﻫﻨﺎك ﺷﺮوط وﻣﺤﻜﺎت ﺗﺘﻌﻠﻖ ﺑﺎﻟﺴﻠﻮك ذاﺗﻪﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ أي ﺑﻄﺮﻳﻘﺔ ﻋﺮض ا ا ﺑﻮﺿﻮح وﺑﺒﺴﺎﻃﺔ وﺑﺸﻜﻞ ﺗﻠﻘﺎﺋﻲﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﺧﺎل ﻣﻦ اﻻﺻﻄﻨﺎعﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وﺑﺘﺴـﻠـﺴـﻞ ﻣـﻨـﻄـﻘـﻲ ﻳﻜﺸﻒ ﻋﻦ ا وﻫﻨﺎك ﺷﺮوط ﺗﺘﻌﻠﻖ ﺑﺎ أو ﺑﻔﻘﺮ ا اﻟﻔﺎﺋﺪة أن ﻳﻮﺟﻪ اﻧﺘﺒﺎﻫﻪ ﺑ اﻟﺴﻠﻮك ا اﻟﺴﻠﻮك ا إﻳﺠﺎﺑﻴﺎﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻛﻤﺎ ﻳﻨﺒﻐﻲ أن ﻳﺤﻤﻞ ﻟﻪ اﻟﺴﻠﻮك اﳉﺪﻳﺪ ﻣﺰاﻳﺎ ﻧﻔﺴﻴﺔ واﺟﺘﻤـﺎﻋـﻴـﺔ ﻋﻨﺪ )أو ا ﻧﺤﻮ اﻟﺴﻠﻮك ا ﻣﻦ اﻟﺘﺪرﻳﺐﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ أن ﻳﻜﻮن اﲡﺎﻫﻪ إﻳﺠﺎﺑﻴﺎ ﻧﺤﻮ اﻟﻘﺪوةﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻣﻦ ﺣﻴﺚ درﺟﺔ اﻟﺘﻘـﺒـﻞ واﳊﺐ )ﻓﻨﺤﻦ ﻻ ﻧﻘﺘﺪي ﻋﺎدة ﳒﺎح ﻫﺬا اﻷﺳﻠﻮب ﻓﻲ ﲢﺴ ﻳﺆدي ﻣﻨﻔﺮدا أو ﺑﺎﻟﺘﻌﺎون ﻣﻊ أﺳﺎﻟﻴﺐ ﻋﻼﺟﻴﺔ أﺧﺮى دورا ﻓﻌﺎﻻ ﻓﻲ اﻛﺘﺴﺎب ﻣﻬﺎرات ﻣﺘﻌﺪدةﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻣﻦ ﺑﻴﻨﻬﺎ ﻣﻮاﻗﻒ اﻟﺘﻔﺎﻋﻞ واﻟﻠﻘﺎءات ا ا اﺳﺘﺨﺪام اﻟﻘﺪوة ﻳﻔﻴﺪ ﻓﻲ اﻟﺘﺨﻠﺺ ﻣﻦ ﻛﺜﻴﺮ ﻣﻦ اﻟﻤﺨﺎوف اﻻﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﻴﺔﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻓﻴﻬﺎ اﻟﻘﻠﻖ اﻻﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﻲﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وﻣﻮاﺟﻬﺔ اﳉﻤﻬﻮر. ﻛﻤﺎ أن ﺑﻌﺾ اﻟﺪراﺳﺎت اﳊﺪﻳﺜﺔ ﻧﺴﺒﻴﺎ ﺑﻴﻨﺖ أن ﻣﻦ ا واﻵﺧﺮﻳﻦ ﻋﻠﻰ اﻛﺘﺴﺎب ﺟﻮاﻧﺐ إﻳﺠﺎﺑﻴﺔ ﻓﻲ ﻋﻼﻗﺎﺗﻨﺎ اﻻﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋـﻴـﺔﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ذﻟﻚ: ﺿﺒﻂ اﻟﻨﻔﺲ ﻓﻲ ا اﻷدوار اﻟﻮاﻟﺪﻳﺔ ﻣﻦ ﺣﻴﺚ ﺗﻘﺪ ا )Kendall & Braswell, 1982; Gambrill,1987.(

293 ﻣﺒﺎﻫﺞ ﻣﺸﺮوﻋﺔ وﻧﺸﺎﻃﺎت ﺳﺎرة ﻣﺒــﺎﻫــﺞ ﻣﺸــﺮوﻋــﺔ وﻧﺸـﺎﻃـﺎت ﺳــﺎرة أﺣﺪاث ﺻﻐﻴﺮة: أﺷﻴﺎء أو أﺣﺪاث ﺻﻐﻴﺮة ﻗﺪ ﲢﺪث ﻓﻲ ﺣﻴﺎﺗﻨﺎ ﻗﺼﺪا أو دون ﻗﺼﺪﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻳﻜﻮن ﻟﻬﺎ ﻓﻲ ﻛﺜﻴﺮ ﻣﻦ اﻷﺣﻴﺎن أﺛﺮ واﺿﺢ ﻓﻲ ﺗﻌﺪﻳﻞ ا ﻫﺬه اﻷﺷﻴﺎء وﺗﺘﻨﻮعﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻗﺪ ﺗﻜﻮن ﻓﻲ ﺷـﻜـﻞ ﺗـﻐـﻴـﺮ ﻓـﻲ اﻟﻄﻘﺲﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ أو ارﺗﻔﺎع واﻧﺨﻔﺎض ﻓﻲ درﺟﺔ اﳊﺮارةﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ أو ﺗﻌﻠﻴﻖ ﻋﻔﻮي ﻣﻦ ﺷﺨﺺ أو أﺷﺨﺎص ﺗﻌﺮﻓﻬﻢ أو ﻻ ﺗﻌﺮﻓﻬﻢ. ﺗﺨﺮج ﺻﺒﺎﺣﺎﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻣﺜﻼﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وأﻧﺖ ﻣﺴﺘﻌـﺪ ﻟـﻠـﻘـﺎء ﻳﻮم ﺟﺪﻳﺪﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻓﺘﺠﺪ ﺷﺨﺼ ﻳﺘﺒﺎدﻻن اﻟﺸﺘﺎﺋﻢ واﻟﺴـﺒـﺎبﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻓـﻴـﺘـﻐـﻴـﺮ ﻣـﺰاﺟـﻚﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وﻻ ﺗﺘﻔﺎءل ﺧﻴﺮا ﻓﻲ ﻳﻮﻣﻚ. أو ﺗﺨﺮج ﻟﺘﺠﺪ ﺧﺪﺷﺎ ﻋﻠﻰ ﺳﻴﺎرﺗﻚﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻓﻴﻨﻘﻠﺐ ﻣﺰاﺟﻚ رأﺳﺎ ﻋﻠﻰ ﻋﻘﺐ ر اﻟﻴﻮم أو اﻷﻳﺎم اﻟﺘﺎﻟﻴﺔ. ﺗﺬﻫـﺐ إﻟـﻰ ﻋـﻤـﻠـﻚﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻓـﺘـﺠـﺪ رﺳﺎﻟﺔ ﻣﻦ رﺋﻴـﺴـﻚ ﻳـﻄـﻠـﺐ اﻻﻟـﺘـﻘـﺎء ﺑـﻚ ﻓـﻲ اﻟـﻴـﻮم اﻟﺘﺎﻟﻲﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻓﺘﺠﺪ ﻧﻔﺴﻚ ﻧﻬﺒﺎ ﻟﻜﻞ أﻧﻮاع اﻟﺸﻚ واﻟﻘﻠﻖ. ﺗﻔﺘﺢ اﳉﺮﻳﺪةﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وﺗﻘﺮأ ﻧﺒﺄ وﻓﺎة أﺣﺪ ا وﻗﺪ اﻧﺘﻘﻞ إﻟﻰ رﺣﻤﺔ اﻟﻠﻪﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻓﻴﺼـﻴـﺒـﻚ اﻟـﻬـﻠـﻊ ﻃـﻮال اﻟﻴﻮم أو ﻣﺎ ﺑﻌﺪ اﻟﻴﻮم ﺑﺄن ﺣﻴﺎﺗﻚ ﻗﺪ ﻗﺎرﺑﺖ ﻧﻬﺎﻳﺘﻬﺎﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﺗﺒﻌﺚ ﻣﻘﺎﻻ أو ﺑﺤﺜﺎ إﻟﻰ ﻣﺠﻠﺔﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻓﻴﻌﻴﺪه ﻟﻚ رﺋـﻴـــﺲ 17

294 اﻹﻛﺘﺌﺎب اﻟﺘﺤـﺮﻳﺮ ﺑﺎﻻﻋﺘـﺬارﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻓﻴﺼﻴﺒـﻚ ﺷـﻌﻮـﺮ ﻋﻤﻴﻖ ﺑﺎﻻﻛﺘـﺎبﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وﺑﺄﻧﻚ ﻻ ﺗﻜﺘﺐ ﺷﻴﺌﺎ ﻟﻪ ﻗﻴﻤﺔﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ور ﻳﺪﻓﻌﻚ إﻟﻰ ﻗﺮارات ﻗﺪ ﺗﺆﺛﺮ ﻓﻲ ﻣﺴﺘﻘﺒﻠﻚ ﻛﻠﻪ )إذا ﻣﺎ ﻗﺮرت ﻣﺜﻼ أن ﺗﺘﻮﻗﻒ ﻋﻦ اﻟﻜﺘﺎﺑﺔ ﻫﺬه اﻷﺷﻴﺎء اﻟﺼﻐﻴﺮةﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻗﺪ ﺗﻜﻮن أﻳﻀﺎ ﻋﻠﻰ ا ﺷﻜﻞ ﻓﻜﺮة ﻣﻔﺎﺟﺌﺔ ﺗﺮد ﻋﻠﻰ ذﻫﻨﻚ. ﻣﺜﻼ وأﻧﺖ ﺟﺎﻟﺲ ﲡﺪ ﻧﻔﺴﻚ ﺗﺴـﺮحﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻓﺘﺘﺬﻛﺮ ﻓﺠﺄة ﺧﺒﺮة ﻓﺸﻞ ﺳﺎﺑﻘﺔﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ أو ﺣﺎدﺛﺎ ﻣﺎﺿﻴﺎ ﺗﻌﺮﺿﺖ ﻓﻴﻪ ﺣﻴـﺎﺗﻚﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ أو ﺳﻤﻌﺘﻚ ﻟﻠﺨﻄﺮ )اﳊﻘﻴﻘﻲ أو ا وأﺳﻮأ ﻣﺎ ﻓﻲ ﻫﺬه اﻷﺣﺪاث اﻟﺼﻐﻴﺮةﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ أﻧﻬﺎ ﲡﻌﻠﻨﺎ ﻣﺴﺘﻬﺪﻓ ﻣﺰاﺟﻴﺔ واﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﻴﺔ أﺧﻄﺮﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وأوﺳﻊ اﻧﺘﺸﺎرا. ﻓﻌﻨﺪﻣﺎ ﲡﺪ ﺧﺪﺷﺎ ﻋﻠﻰ ﺳﻴﺎرﺗﻚﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻣﺜﻼﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ أو ﻗﻤﺎﻣﺔ أﻣﺎم ﻣﺪﺧﻞ ﺷﻘﺘﻚ أو ﻣﻨﺰﻟﻚﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻗﺪ ﻻ ﻳﺘﻮﻗﻒ اﻷﻣﺮ ﻋﻨﺪ ﻣﺠﺮد ﺷﻌﻮرك ﺑﺎﻟﻀﻴﻖ واﻟﻐﻴﻆ ﻓﻲ اﻟﻴﻮمﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ أو ﻓﻲ اﻟﻠﺤﻈﺎت اﻟﺘـﺎﻟـﻴـﺔﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﺑـﻞ ﻗـﺪ ﻧﺘﻴﺠﺔ ﻟﻼﺳﺘﺜﺎرة اﻻﻧﻔﻌﺎﻟﻴﺔ إﻟﻰ ﻋﻼﻗﺎﺗﻚ ﺑﺎﻵﺧﺮﻳﻦﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻓﺘﺠﺪ ﻧﻔﺴﻚ ﺗﺪﺧﻞ ﻓﻲ ﻣﺸﺎﺣﻨﺎت وﺻﺮاﻋﺎت ﻣﻊ اﻵﺧﺮﻳﻦﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ أو ﺣﺘﻰ اﻟﺬﻳﻦ ﺗﻠﺘﻘﻲ ﺑﻬﻢ ﻋﻠﻰ ﻧﺤﻮ ﻋﺎﺑﺮ. ﺑﻌﺒـﺎرة أﺧـﺮىﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻓـﺈن ﺧـﻄـﻮرة ﻫـﺬه اﻷﺷﻴﺎء ﻻ ﺗﻘﺘﺼﺮ ﻋﻠﻰ ﻣﺎ ﺗﺨﻠﻘﻪ ﺳﺎﻋﺘﻬﺎ ﻣﻦ ﻣﺸﺎﻋﺮ ﺳﻠﺒﻴﺔﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﺑﻞ إذا ﻣﺎ ﺧﻠﻘﺖ داﺋﺮة ﻣﻐﻠﻘﺔﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وﺧﺒﻴﺜﺔ ﻣﻦ اﻟﺘﻮﺗﺮ )اﻟﻀﻴﻖ اﻟﺬي ﻳﺨﻠﻘﻪ اﳊﺪث أو ا اﳋﺎرﺟﻴﺔ واﻟﺪاﺧﻠﻴﺔ ﺑﻄﺮﻳﻘﺔ ﻣﺘﻮﺗﺮة ﺗﺴﺘﺜﻴﺮ ﻛﺜﻴﺮا ﻣﻦ اﻻﺳﺘﺠﺎﺑﺎت اﻟﺴﻠﺒﻴﺔﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ اﻟﺘﻲ ﺗﺴﺎﻫﻢ ﺑﺪورﻫﺎ ﻓﻲ ﺧﻠﻖ ﻣﺸﻜﻼت إﺿﺎﻓـﻴـﺔﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ أو ﺗـﺰﻳـﺪ ﻣـﻦ ا ا وإذا ﻛﻨﺎ ﺣﺘﻰ اﻵن ﻗﺪ رﻛﺰﻧﺎ ﻋﻠﻰ اﻷﺣﺪاث اﻟﺼﻐﻴﺮة اﻟﺘﻲ ﺗﺆﺛﺮ ﻓﻲ ا ﺳﻠﺒﺎﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻓﺈن اﻟﻌﻜﺲ أﻳﻀﺎ ـ وﳊﺴﻦ اﳊﻆ ـ ﺻﺤﻴﺢ. إذ ﻣﻦ ا ﻣﺰاﺟﻨﺎﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﺑﺎﻷﺣﺪاث اﻟﺴﺎرة. ﺗﺴﻴﺮ ﻓﻲ اﻟﺸﺎرع ﻣﺜـﻼﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ أو ﻓـﻲ ﻣـﺮﻛـﺰ ﲡـﺎريﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻓﺘﺠﺪ أﻣﺎﻣﻚ ﻋﻠﻰ اﻟﺮ ﺻﻴﻒ ورﻗﺔ ﻋﻤﻠﺔ ﻧﻘﺪﻳﺔ. ﻓﺘﻠﺘﻘﻄﻬﺎﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وﺗﺸﻌـﺮ ﺑـﻌـﺪﻫـﺎ ﺑﺎﻟﺴﺮور واﻟﺘﻔﺎؤلﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ور ﻟﻚﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وﻷن ﻣﺰاﺟﻚ ﻳﺘﺠﻪ إﻟﻰ اﻟﺘﻔـﺎؤلﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ ﻓـﺈﻧـﻚ ﺗـﺘـﺼـﺮف ﻃـﻮال اﻟـﻴـﻮم ﺑـﺼـﻮرة ﻣﺘﻔﺎﺋﻠﺔﻏﺲﺘﺲﻰﺐمﻏﳉءﺄﻊ وﲢﻘﻖ ﻛﺜﻴﺮا ﻣﻦ اﻷﺷﻴﺎء اﻹﻳﺠﺎﺑﻴﺔ وﻣﺰاﺟﻚ اﻟﺸﺨﺼﻲ اﻟﻌﺎم. ﻫﺬا ﺑﺎﻟﺮﻏﻢ ﻣﻦ أﻧﻚ ﺗﻌﺮف ﺑﻴـﻨـﻚ وﺑـ